Acceptance is sometimes thought to be a negative thing. Even images and feelings of weakness come with it. But it is actually very powerful.
What do I mean by that?
When we are in resistance to things as they are. We tend to tense up and come up with all kinds of fears.
The Fear of Pain
So we might end up in a situation of being in fear of suffering. We might be afraid of losing our status, or our safety, or our security. Maybe we are afraid that our wife or boyfriend might break up with us?
This is why meditation and breathing slowly and deeply is so important. So we can let go of these fears. They are illusionary, for two reasons;
Maybe they come true, or they do not.
So let’s look at the first situation;
They come true; your wife or your husband breaks up with you. This actually has happened to me in the past. Given enough time, I’ve come to laugh at these situations.
A break up is not the end of the world and can be laughed at given enough time.
Trust me. When I at first discovered that my girlfriend during the time had cheated on me, I was in tears. I was crying my eyes out. That is almost a decade ago now.
After 3 months or so, I was already laughing at it a little bit. These days? It’s my favorite joke, a story that I am deeply fond of and would not change it for anything.
The second circumstance?
It never happens in the first place. So stressed out for nothing.
If someone is a good partner for you and you’re a great partner for them, things could happen quite naturally. We should spend less time worrying for real, and more time being confident about our attractiveness. We should believe that things will turn out magically for ourselves.
That’s what I’ve heard from people who are older and have lived through their crazy and often insecure younger days. They’ve learned these truths in their own way.
Stay wild.